"כִּי-תֵצֵא לַמִּלְחָמָה, עַל-אֹיְבֶיךָ; וּנְתָנוֹ יְקוָק אֱלֹהֶיךָ, בְּיָדֶךָ–וְשָׁבִיתָ שִׁבְיוֹ. " The Torah teaches us how to go to war against our enemies. Every day we wake up to a new war.
I am not talking about a fist fight or cannons firing on the neighbors.
We have an enemy that always wants to invade our domain and take as much as he can from us. Most people are not aware of him but he is our worst enemy and also our best friend (?!).
The parasha of Ki Tetze, teaches us how to identify and deal with him. We have a choice to fight him or submit to him.
In 21:10 we read "and if you go to war on your ENEMIES, G-d will deliver HIM into your hand and have captives"…" and you saw a beautiful woman, and you desired her and you took her to be your wife". The rest of the story talks about hair styles, nails, dressing, crying and sex. I will not talk about the details but here is a quick kabalistic dictionary. Hair = Wires to draw
energy, nail= holds negative energy, dress = surrounding light,
crying = opening to the level of Chokmah, Father = Chokmah (right
column), Mother =Binah (left column), sex= connection of light and
Rashi, comments on this verse "and you took her to be your wife", and says that here the Torah is talking about the evil inclination.
We have one enemy and he appears in many forms and makes battles with us. Where ever we go, he is there to challenge us. We can not make one single decision without him interfering and pushing in his point.
The Torah reveals that even if we see the battles ahead, there is only one enemy and to win, all we need to do is go to war with him and G-d will deliver him into our hands.
It is an amazing guarantee. All we need is to go out to war and that\’s it, G-d will deliver.
The evil side wants to take away our connection to the Light. He comes in many tempting forms; beautiful woman, delicious cake, yummy ice-cream, easy money, skipping a spiritual connection, and lots more. It is not easy to fight him all the time but it is also a gift to us from G-d. He created this world for us to work. Genesis (2:3) "אֲשֶׁר-בָּרָא אֱלקִים לַעֲשׂוֹת ".
G-d gave us the gift of free choice, the ability to choose and create. Be like G-d. Every thing outside the basic elements of nature was created by us. From the first piece of cloth, first wheel to the space station orbiting earth.
G-d created the system of cause and effect with the built in force that tempts and offers us the wrong choices. The light of the creator is always there. The problem is that the force of negativity always attaches itself to the good and blocks us from connecting to it.
It is like a shell of the nut or of a fruit. We need to break through the Shell (Klipa in Hebrew) in order to get to the fruit. The harder the shell, the more potent is the fruit. Negative is always in the open. No effort is needed to connect to it. All the "easy to get" are from the negative. If you do not work for it, it is from the negativity. We all know the saying "easy come, easy go". If it comes easy, it is not ours and negativity can claim it back at any moment.
The Zohar brings a story about King Solomon that one time he held the king of all demons captive. King Solomon asked him to reveal the greatest secrets to avoid negativity. The king of demons told him that to avoid and to keep away negativity; a person should always buy in full price. Free gifts draw the negativity and let it get attached to us.
When we go to war we break the Klipa and we can expose and enjoy the fruit. The war is a payment to receive the Light. Understanding that negative force is always there puts us on guard and ready to battle.
We can consider him as a friend that encourages us to do our best. In the Olympic Games many of the contestants break their records because they have a strong opponent next to them.
To expand our vessel and be able to draw bigger light we need this opponent to challenge us everyday. Going down is easy. Climbing up is hard but on each step up you can feel the achievement and elevation of the spirit. The more you go down the more you feel the energy drain out.
When a person doesn\’t have challenges in life, it means that he is in the negative side.
A rich person knows that the moment he rests, he start losing. There is no resting on the way up. G-d gave us the Shabbat to rest from the daily battles. Thank G-d for Shabbat.
"כִּי-יִהְיֶה לְאִישׁ, בֵּן סוֹרֵר וּמוֹרֶה "
In (21:18), we find the story of the stubborn and rebellious son. This son is our negative actions. Father and Mother are Chokmah and Binah, which are the higher connections to the Light. When we do not use the GPS (G-d Provided System), we suffer the consequences. If we still do not follow the Light then we take our negativity to the open, "the elders of the city and the gate of his place". This action is done to break the inner shell (Klipa) and become exposed to the Light.
"וְלָקַח אֲבִי הַנַּעֲרָ, וְאִמָּהּ;
וְהוֹצִיאוּ אֶת-בְּתוּלֵי הַנַּעֲרָ,
אֶל-זִקְנֵי הָעִיר–הַשָּׁעְרָה "
The word in Hebrew for a girl is "נַּעֲרָה ", in the Torah (22:15) it is written as "נַּעֲר " that means a young man. The Torah reader in Shabbat must read it as "נַּעֲרָה ". The Zohar explains that this is the secret of the connection to our soul. The soul is light (Male) and the vessel is female. The Torah teaches us here how to reconnect to our pure soul (virgin) and how to remove negativity that was attached to it by our negative actions.
This word appears 13 times in the parasha, in chapter 22 to give us the power of purification.
We are in the month of Elul, a time that we use to cleanse "our bad history" with reflecting on our actions, doing "Teshuvah" and reciting the "Selichot". A main connection in Selichot is the 13 attributes of G-d. As you know the 13 attributes were mentioned first time when Moshe begged and prayed to G-d on behalf of the Yisraelites to avoid punishment for their negative actions.
There are 47 mitzvoth (out of the 613) to signify a lot of opportunities to draw the light into our life, especially in the month of Elul and before Rosh Hashanah.
We need to remember not to love negativity even if it looks nice and easy on the surface. Losing the light is harder and it takes longer to build than to destroy. Go to war against our negativity, expose it and cleanse it. If we have some history to clean, we should go back to the source, to the person, open up and cleanse any negativity that was there.